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Information about BDSM and Spanking
Kink Aware Coach Hans West explains the basics of BDSM and Spanking
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The abbreviation BDSM stands for several aspects: Bondage, Dominance and Discipline, Sadism and Submissiveness, Masochism. Spanking can, but does not always have to be a part of it.
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Bondage is a way to restrict the sub or masochist’s freedom of movement. This can be done through beautiful Japanese rope techniques, with duck tape or, for example, a very tight corset. The purpose can be different: enjoy the aesthetics, force the sub to surrender, fix the masochist (during spanking, for example).
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Subs actually like the surrender and sometimes enjoy showing through pain stimuli how hard they are willing to work for their Dominant. Here you are spanking more in the context of a game of power play, where the pain stimuli, at the discretion of the dominant can be painful or pleasurable.
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Sadomasochism is a game between Sadist and Masochist. It’s a game with stimuli that are a bit more intense than the national average, things that might be pain for other people but not necessarily perceived as “painful.” There are sexually masochistic people who get an erotic rush from the right pain stimuli. Sadists enjoy seeing the masochist suffer, or conversely, enjoy it.
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Some people enjoy playing with humiliation or punishment. Then the pain often does not even have to be pleasant. In this, spanking is a form of “Punishment” (or funishment). Often in the context of role-playing. Think of the naughty schoolgirl who gets an OTK (Over The Knee) from a strict master. Whether or not provoked by some violation of the rules.
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You do BDSM because you like it … well afterwards 😉
BDSM is something people do because it gives their lives more excitement, more lust, more quality or more ecstasy.
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You do BDSM because you want to like it (even afterwards). So you will have to take care of a number of things. It shouldn’t just be exciting and horny along the way. You also want it to be fun afterwards and not have to go to the doctor because you broke something. That’s just not fun. Then you don’t want to have to go to the psychologist because you had a traumatic experience because things happened to you that you really didn’t want to experience.
You do BDSM because you want to experience it, even if it may be a little different than the national average would want to experience. That means informing yourself: where do you hit, where don’t you hit. Where do nerves run where you don’t want to hit? Where run bone structures that could easily cause unsightly wounds as skin gets caught between hard bone and a hard spanking paddle. How do I get a good spanking paddle that doesn’t have splinters on it and doesn’t break right away when I spank harder? Do I want bruising or do I want to go for even pinkish red? And how is that for you? Do you have to go to the sauna with your colleagues tomorrow? How do you want to feel afterwards? Tired? Used? Beloved?
After all, safety is not only a physical thing, it is certainly also a psychological thing, something in the mind-set.
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You can already feel that you are not going to start slapping right away, therefore, but that you will talk about this together. Maybe someone has been beaten before, maybe there are things you should or should not say to give such a thing a nice framework.
BDSM (and spanking, therefore, too) is something you are excited about, what you want, what you consent to. “Consent” they call it, and preferably the so-called “enthusiastic consent.” So not the old idea of decorating in which you as the “initiator” just keep nagging until eventually someone just stops saying “no.
THAT is not a “YES!”
Consent about spanking is that it is not just something that you then let happen without actually wanting to experience it. Consentual spanking is something you both want (even if you ask yourself halfway through why you actually want it).
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Also allow yourself and your partner to consult about safewords: “Green” to both know that the BDSM game has begun, “Orange” to indicate (both) that consultation is needed for a moment but that the intention is to continue, “Red” (also for both) to indicate that there are something goes wrong somewhere for a moment, that you want to have a cup of tea or sit down to discuss that you have a doubt or a stirring memory in your head. Or just that it has suddenly been “enough” and you want a hug.
Just allow yourself to keep consulting along the way, and not in such a needy way of “Am I doing it right? Am I doing it right?” But just because you want to make sure what you want happens. “This one hurt huh? It was supposed to. But I just wanted to make sure!”🙂
If you keep consulting with each other then it stays fun, then you can push boundaries, try new things, attend workshops together and exchange experiences with other BDSM people. Then spanking remains and part of a nice exciting life where you enjoy sex and playing together.
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There is a lot to be said about spanking. To be clear, we are talking about spanking by hand or with paddles, within a BDSM game. “Impact play” is also called.
Check the calendar to see when there is another workshop if you really want to know everything. It is really impossible to say everything about this in a few sentences.
Briefly: It always has a bit to do with the BDSM physics lesson I always teach at my workshops:
Impact = Speed x Weight x Force. How fast do you hit? How heavy is the paddle? Do you stop just at the skin, or just below it? All things that matter in the effect of the pets!
The energy of the blow should be able to undulate away. So that means you will hit on fat tissue but mostly on muscle. Buttocks, of course, are wonderful for that, thighs and upper legs. There you can take out fairly easily without making large chunks quickly.On more sensitive areas of the body you can also hit more gently and with smaller boards if the masochistic party likes that too.
In general, you can say that most novice spankers want to start too hard, causing someone to “run out” before it has really gotten fun. So now learn this from Grandpa Hans 😉 “The road to any goal is a goal too!”
Build up slowly … Sometimes a little faster and a little softer. Sometimes some harder caps but not as fast on each other. And sometimes just feel what that warm flesh feels like when you grab it or put your nails into it a little bit. Or just to the beat of the music … but a three-quarter beat. Otherwise, all the time that one buttock gets the harder taps.
In unheated skin, bruising is more likely to occur. For some a great memory, for others a NO-GO.
In conclusion, start with a small size paddle, don’t go for the big oars right away, with those you can quickly accidentally get outside the intended area anyway.
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There are sexually masochistic people who get an erotic rush from the right pain stimuli. For some, that is more sharp pain: “sting.” For the other, this is more duller blows: “thud.”
You get a stingy effect by giving a shallow slap with the flat of your hand and immediately withdrawing your hand (or chaffing it). You get a thuddy effect by slapping with a hollow hand and pushing a little after. It takes some searching and experimenting.
Different spanking paddles have different effects. Long, light, thin paddles have a stingy effect. Heavier, thicker paddles (when used correctly) have more of a thuddy effect.
The holes you often see in paddles magnify the stingy, screeching effect of the paddle. Depending on the impact, they can quickly leave imprints in the shape of the holes. Like the andreas crosses in the Spanksterdam Paddles.
Paddles with a concave (concave) shape increase the thuddy effect of the blow. the greater the concavity, the greater the effect. You want the paddle in the middle not to touch the skin but to trap air there. A slightly concave spoon shape will still feel stingy rather than thuddy as long as the entire surface of the paddle touches the skin.
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BDSM can involve sexual acts, but it does not always have to. Spanking can serve as foreplay before sex, but it can also stand alone. A sub can be sexually aroused by a good spanking. A quietly performed and souped-up spanking can also lead to a feeling of ecstasy that for some has a spiritual element.
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